If you’ve decided you’d like to date a cougar, understand that the rules are slightly different for dating older women than they are for dating young chicks.

Where to find Cougars?

So you’ve decided you’d like to try cougar dating, but don’t know where to find them. Sure, there are hot older women everywhere you look, but are they really cougars, or is there a husband in the picture waiting to kick your ass?

Cougars in Bars

Two places that are safer for finding cougars are bars and online dating sites. The rules for finding a cougar in a bar are simple: be cougar bait. Cougars are not looking for the same old couch potato that they left behind. They want someone who is self-confident, cool and exudes fun and sexual energy.

Online Cougar Dating

There are quite a few online dating sites that feature cougar dating. It’s a great way to get started dating cougars. You can swap photos and emails and feel each other out before actually meeting to see if you’re on the same wavelength. Just Google “dating cougars” to find a list of Cougar Dating sites.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that all cougars are alike. Actually, they’re not. Some cougars are looking for a trophy boy toy or boyfriend and some are looking for casual sexual encounters. If your potential cougar is looking for boyfriend material, show her you have boyfriend potential. Be interested in what she has to say and show her you have brains as well as youth on your side. Rambling on about football or the latest video game will probably not win her over and just make her think of you in the same light as her son, and you do not want a cougar thinking of you like a son.

Then there are the cougars who only want fun, casual sexual encounters with someone who does not remind her of the boring old fart she just divorced. This cougar is fun loving, attractive, and yes … horny! This is probably the cougar that you are looking for.

If you want to score with this cougar, keep it light. Religion and political discussions are probably not what she’s after. Pick fun topics for conversation. Find out what they’re interested in and talk about those things as well as fun things that you’re into. You should probably avoid talking about the age difference or indicating to her that bagging a cougar has been a sexual fantasy of yours for some time. Just be self-confident, fun and sexy if you want to get her palms (or paws?) sweaty.

Where to Go On The First Date

Taking her out for a meal or drinks is always a good ice breaker. One word of caution on taking her to a restaurant if you’ve only met online … she may not really look like her photo and you don’t want to set yourself up for a long awkward evening and a 3-course meal if you’re not going to hit it off. A nice quiet bar where you can get to know each other would be a better first date in those circumstances. Avoid bars where all your friends hang out. You don’t need any distractions.

Finally, your cougar date might have deeper pockets that you do, but don’t assume that she will pick up the bill. Be the first one to get your wallet out to pay, just as you would any date. You don’t want her thinking that you’re a gigolo, just looking for an older women to foot the bills. If she insists, you can let her pay but don’t act like you expect it and be prepared to pay the bill yourself. Play your cards right and you may be in for an unforgettable night that you won’t forget anytime soon.

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