Single men and ladies face many challenges when exploring the interesting and sometimes quirky experience of blind dating. It can be somewhat compared to a box of boring milk chocolates with awful tasting mystery centers when all you wanted was a rich dark chocolate caramel.

I’m sure Charlie Brown didn’t expect to get a rock in his Halloween treat bag either, when all he wanted was a tasty candy bar! You might have to go through a few duds before you find the right piece of candy. If you’re open to it; you might just learn something about yourself along the way.

You may ask “what can I learn from getting a rock in my treat bag?” Well, you may not be enthusiastic about the prospect of your rather deadpan boring blind date; but the comical journey might just teach you a little humility. Dating disasters can be about what not to pick the second time around or they can be extraordinary adventure rides full of scary but nice surprises.

That little rock might carry a lot of confidence with it as well. Confidence can be sexy and can be the strongest aphrodisiac of all! Let yourself venture outside of your comfort zone and this can serve to bolster your own confidence and self worth in the process. Getting comfortable with yourself and opening up to others can open up doors you never thought possible.

So he might not be the most gorgeous chocolate in the box; but he’s got intelligence and humor and that can be sexy. Investing your time in learning how to communicate will be the first step in finding your true love. This translates into becoming a good listener. Even if you have to sit through a dissertation on how he has conquered all levels of his War of Worlds Warcraft game or hearing about what kinds of food he has tried at the latest up an coming buffet restaurant.

It’s good to be tolerant at times because it teaches us that we can ask better of ourselves than just judging all those nooks and crannies on the outside. There is more to that rock than meets the eye.

You might find that your greatest love will fall into your lap like a huge meteor from the sky when you least expect it. So open your treat bag and don’t be afraid to knock on the doors of some boring houses that you might otherwise have previously overlooked.

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Don’t misunderstand the rules, men should really foot bills most of the time and surprise women with gifts and whatever it is that spells romance. That’s how the world works. Women are very emotional beings and they love being adored and thought of. But what if the woman you’re with takes too much and never gives back? Find out if she’s a valuable catch or just another fake one digging some gold:

She loves expensive things that she can’t afford – Don’t get me wrong having a gal with classy taste is a sure catch. But if your chick doesn’t mind borrowing money, stepping on people, or asking you for money to go on a shopping spree just to get signature items that she doesn’t even need at all then she’s the kind that kills your pocket; and won’t even care if you can afford her silly desires.

She tries to live a posh life that only she created – If she was born to a posh family or if she made it big and she’s really educated then enlisting her lifestyle is understandable. But if she expects you to always treat her out to expensive hotels, restaurants, and if she always sucks up to socialites that she can’t even come to par to then you better watch it. You could be one of her stepping stones towards the peak of high society and a life of glamour and luxury.

She takes everything and doesn’t care about you – Although a man should financially support a woman, occasional gifts and invites to dinner would be really sweet. If she doesn’t care at all about your needs and what you want (even your cheap thrills) and doesn’t care to save up or earn a bit to get you something special once in a while then I suggest you date someone else.

It’s buy or die always – It is only wise that a woman gives herself to a man who knows her worth. But if she’s only nice to you after you’ve bought her something, or if she doesn’t sleep with you until she gets that new Chanel purse; and worse, if she throws tantrums when you can’t or won’t buy her what she wants then something is really the matter here. If she treats you like an ATM and shows no sign of independence and the ability to purchase her own necessities once in a while then she’s a gold digger alright.

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(Join the American Pie League)

According to studies, people who have casual sex are less likely to regret it than those who do it with a serious partner. Once a steady relationship turns rocky, they sob. Well it’s not a surprise at all. Friends with benefits or even those who pick girls or guys from a bar enjoy a string-free romance and consider these hook-ups as “harmless” because of a few good reasons:

First of all there’s no commitment. Some people want sex so bad and yet they can’t stand the common relationship issues such as time, fidelity, and boredom. So they feel it’s really okay to just have sex with people whom you’ve hardly met in the mean time until such time when they’re really ready to settle down. Another upside on casual sex is the convenience. Hey, maybe a lot of women feel insulted about booty calls, but being waked up in the middle of the night for a sac session can be really sexy and satisfying. Casual sex is considered to be kind of convenient for both parties, because they each get what they want when they want it, and they don’t really have to give back anything except for sex too. Many think they shouldn’t have to deal with other individuals only unless they’re horny. Lastly, casual sex somehow gives comfort to certain individuals. Because having sex with a stranger or a friend can be really hot and heavy, no one has to worry much about performance and being lazy in bed. During random hook-ups no one really cared about physical flaws and feelings and whatnot because everyone is just in it for the sex.

But the downside is kind of tricky for friends with benefits. If you happen to be very close, then for sure one of you will get too attached. Hook-ups might be great but having someone on the hook is soo-not-cool. So unless the boundary is clear to you both, you’ll eventually have problems.

Another pickle about casual sex is that it might destroy a friendship. But eventually one will always subconsciously take advantage of the other and the friendship factor suddenly becomes blurry. No one wants her friend to look at her a like some piece of meat. And the worst could happen when one of you decides to settle down. Being friends “still” with someone you used to bang a lot will make the new relationship uncomfortable and full of insecurities, not to mention petty quarrels and ultimatums that are totally uncalled for. But giving up an old friend may also seem like crossing enemy lines for you.

And that is why more than 60% of Americans search for an on the side action on the internet practically every single day. Escorts, web cam girls, and the likes all give the same harmless hook-ups without attachments, even friendship. The convenience is great and there is a wide array of choices as to whom you get to date with. No longer will you have to go to the bar or a club and get your game on. Online dating sites provide feed your sexual and intimate needs without any aftermath or other issues. There’s no limit to online adult dating as the internet never sleeps. All adult site members are into having casual sex unlike in bars where you’re never sure about who’s looking for what. And adult dating site provides a comfortable and easy environment for those who just purely want to hook-up and have fun. With adult dating you get to choose the right one to be with for a period of time, and the experience seems rewarding. With this, two adults can have sex without having to deal with any emotional attachments.

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Everyone agrees that a change in environment can perk up a couple’s libido, especially when we’re speaking of a vacation. However, rekindling your love in a hotel room may not be as steamy anymore if that’s all you ever do during holidays. Public sex spots such as the car, the bathroom, and the dressing room are getting a bit old and uncomfortable. So where do you take your sexually anticipating partner this summer without stowing away from a fun vacation? Venus Says Magazine shares the newest and best places where you and your loved one can excitedly get it on

A big rock – Summer hikes are always a fun couple’s activity in the summer. It gives you both the chance to exercise, bond, explore nature, and the hikes give you a sudden physical rush. So if you’re up for something sexy do not wait to get to a tent you would have to set up by dark. Instead, find a big rock with a rather flat surface and have sex there. The exposure to nature and openness of the sex spot will get you both really excited and will give you a mind blowing experience. Make sure to put a cloth or a small towel on the big rock to keep the sexual activity smooth and delightful.

Waterfalls – Sex on the beach is way beyond cliché. It’s time to have fun in or under another body of water: the waterfalls. Whether you do it underneath the falls or on the river where the water flows through, you’ll surely have a great time with your partner. The current in the water will hike up the sex trip and the noise of the waterfalls will allow you both to scream your brains out. The coldness of the water will make you both crave for heat and more than just one round plus you can continue skinny dipping afterwards. The good thing is, you can just wash right there, and do it again.

A tree house – Surely you’ll find one this summer, even if it meant sneaking into your child neighbour’s tree house. Why here, because it’s always been the fantasy of many to do it on the trees. Who would ever think you’re doing the nasty inside such an innocent looking abode. A tree house will make a great sex spot this summer because the trees are partly bare and the heat is outrageous. You and your partner will really be convinced to take off all your clothes and sweat it off in a small dwelling at just enough height.

A roof deck – If there’s one thing you should really do this summer, it’s having sex in front of a great view. A roof deck up your condominium unit or at a commercial building in the middle of the city will give you and your partner not just a hot summer sex spot but a great new sexual experience. This is probably the most public you can get and yet no one’s really looking, unless of course the maintenance crew goes up which makes things even more exciting. Do it on the roof deck at night when you’re both practically visible and when the astonishing lights are all on. It will be plain sexy and unforgettable.

Lighthouse – If you or your partner is afraid of heights then it’s time to make an exception. While you’re vacationing at the beach see if you can find an old lighthouseand have sex atop it. A view of the beach and the extreme height will drive you both insane. And getting to the very top alone will increase your sexual anxiety that when you make it to the top you’ll both explode like you never have before. If you’re craving for more adventure, climb the lighthouse late at night.

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Ok, so you’re both bursting with sexual tension and think you’re ready to take it to the next level with your online dating match.  But are you really ready for cybersex?

Sure it can be a quick fix and a great way to have anonymous sex, but you’re not going to be doing it with a stranger.  You’re going to be engaging in virtual coitus with someone you’re taken the time getting to know and with whom you’ve cultivated a relationship with.

In her book, The Joys of Cybersex, Deborah Levine says: “Shame and embarrassment are removed from the equation –the paying field is level.  You get a chance to find out who you are sexually, what you really need and desire, and to bring it back to your real-life relationships in a healthy way.”

Answer this quick quiz from Venus Says Magazine and find out if you’re really ready for cybersex with your online dating match by either answering YES  or  NO

• You’ve always been curious about cybersex (even though you’ve never done it before), but it was actually your match who suggested it.
• You and your match haven’t yet discussed what having cybersex would mean to both of you as individuals and what it would mean to your virtual relationship.
• You’re not 100% comfortable with it yet, but you really want to please your online dating match.
• You and your match haven’t yet discussed what you (both) are hoping to get out of your virtual coitus.
• You don’t think you could ever really let all your inhibitions go during cybersex because you’re afraid you’ll make a fool of yourself.
• The idea of talking dirty and describing your deepest fantasies scares you a little.
• You want to compare it to real-world sex.
• You’re using cybersex with your online dating match as your “last resort” because you’re going through a really long dry spell and just want to get it over with.
• You’re younger than 18 years old.

RESULT:

If you’ve answered Yes to more than three of the above answers then you should rethink cybersex and what it really means to you and your online dating match. (However, if you answered Yes to the last statement, why the hell are you taking this quiz in the first place?)

Yes it’s an escape from the real world, yes it makes you feel good, but it also has consequences, just like sex in the real world.  And after all your hard work trawling through profiles and finally finding someone you can relate to and share your innermost thoughts and dreams with, do you really want to ruin it with a 300-word dialogue? Probably not.

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If you’re new to online dating, you may get caught up in the excitement and sometimes sheer volume of the number of single women who are ready to date. If you do, just remember that when you communicate with a potential match, you may be doing it through your inanimate computer, but that doesn’t mean that who you’re replying to isn’t a person.

Don’t reply to too many women at once, and DON’T use a generic response. Sending out the same email to 50 prospective matches may save you some time, but it probably won’t get you any replies. It’ll be even worse if the women you reply to actually know each other – you may find your profile on Don’tDateHim.com as a result (yes, women are a little sensitive, and vengeful, when they think they’re being played). To begin with, choose a handful of profiles to contact and read through each one carefully. Compose your response based on what you read by asking questions and sharing experiences. For example, if she’s “well-travelled”, share some of the places you’ve been to with her and then ask her what her favourite place is.

If she loves going to the movies, ask her who her favourite actress is or what her favourite movie is – you can always follow this up with a debate around the talent or box office ratings. Asking questions helps you start a conversation and in turn builds communication.

Women are very sensitive when it comes to being respected. And they’re even more sensitive when it comes to how you address them. Their names aren’t “baby”, “sexy”, “cutie” or “sweetie”. You wouldn’t want her to call you “big daddy” on your first date would you? Well, maybe you would, but that’s a whole different conversation, and one that should be left for a later stage – when both of you are ready to take the relationship to a more intimate level. But I digress. So, use her first name and only her first name. Don’t try to be cute by giving her a nickname – if she has one, she’ll let you know when and if you can use it.

Once you’re both comfortable and ready to swop photographs, don’t get too stuck or overly complimentary. You may come across as creepy and a “dirty old man” if you stress how hot she looks in that polka-dot bikini or how silky her skin appears in that little black dress. Women have a finely tuned creep-radar. And if she’s an impressively hot woman, her creep-radar will have had much training.

Play it safe by keeping compliments gentle and general conversation respectful.

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Where to find Cougars?

So you’ve decided you’d like to try cougar dating, but don’t know where to find them. Sure, there are hot older women everywhere you look, but are they really cougars, or is there a husband in the picture waiting to kick your ass?

Cougars in Bars

Two places that are safer for finding cougars are bars and online dating sites. The rules for finding a cougar in a bar are simple: be cougar bait. Cougars are not looking for the same old couch potato that they left behind. They want someone who is self-confident, cool and exudes fun and sexual energy.

Online Cougar Dating

There are quite a few online dating sites that feature cougar dating. It’s a great way to get started dating cougars. You can swap photos and emails and feel each other out before actually meeting to see if you’re on the same wavelength. Just Google “dating cougars” to find a list of Cougar Dating sites.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that all cougars are alike. Actually, they’re not. Some cougars are looking for a trophy boy toy or boyfriend and some are looking for casual sexual encounters. If your potential cougar is looking for boyfriend material, show her you have boyfriend potential. Be interested in what she has to say and show her you have brains as well as youth on your side. Rambling on about football or the latest video game will probably not win her over and just make her think of you in the same light as her son, and you do not want a cougar thinking of you like a son.

Then there are the cougars who only want fun, casual sexual encounters with someone who does not remind her of the boring old fart she just divorced. This cougar is fun loving, attractive, and yes … horny! This is probably the cougar that you are looking for.

If you want to score with this cougar, keep it light. Religion and political discussions are probably not what she’s after. Pick fun topics for conversation. Find out what they’re interested in and talk about those things as well as fun things that you’re into. You should probably avoid talking about the age difference or indicating to her that bagging a cougar has been a sexual fantasy of yours for some time. Just be self-confident, fun and sexy if you want to get her palms (or paws?) sweaty.

Where to Go On The First Date

Taking her out for a meal or drinks is always a good ice breaker. One word of caution on taking her to a restaurant if you’ve only met online … she may not really look like her photo and you don’t want to set yourself up for a long awkward evening and a 3-course meal if you’re not going to hit it off. A nice quiet bar where you can get to know each other would be a better first date in those circumstances. Avoid bars where all your friends hang out. You don’t need any distractions.

Finally, your cougar date might have deeper pockets that you do, but don’t assume that she will pick up the bill. Be the first one to get your wallet out to pay, just as you would any date. You don’t want her thinking that you’re a gigolo, just looking for an older women to foot the bills. If she insists, you can let her pay but don’t act like you expect it and be prepared to pay the bill yourself. Play your cards right and you may be in for an unforgettable night that you won’t forget anytime soon.

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You can’t always judge a book by it’s cover. Some chicks are drop dead gorgeous, smart, and seem really cool on the surface, but once you really get to know them better … they’re just plain crazy!

Unfortunately, it’s often later in the relationship that most guys figure this out. You may think well, no one is perfect … right or she has a lot of great qualities, but … If you’re wondering what you’ve gotten yourself into, you may have fallen for one of the four types of chicks that you should probably stay away from.

The Clingy Chick

The name says it all. You know the type … they have to be with you or in contact with you constantly or they lose it. You drop her off and she’s bombarding your phone with text or voice messages. She wants to be with you every waking moment, and you’re beginning to find it difficult to breath.

If you’re involved with a “Clingy Chick”, you have to set the boundaries. Explain to her that you enjoy the time you spend together, but you have other obligations, such as work and friends. Don’t make promises that you don’t intend to keep, like promising to call her or see her at a specific time. Encourage her to spend time with her own interests and friends as well. If she can’t or won’t give you the space you need, drop her.

The Jealous Girl

You know the type … she’s been cheated on and now she doesn’t trust guys and you’ll end up paying for the ex’s sins. She’s going to assume that since the ex cheated on her, you will too. She’s clingy and she sees red if there’s even the hint of any other females in your life, whether they be friends or co-workers. Things can get really ugly when she starts checking your voice messages and emails.

If you want to try to make a go of it with a girl like this, you’ll need to have a heart-to-heart with her. Let her know that it makes you feel badly that she doesn’t trust you and that you don’t see how the relationship can go anywhere if she can’t get past her insecurities.
You’ll need to make it clear that you’ll always have female friends or co-workers in your life, but that she’s the one you’re interested in romantically. Once you’ve discussed this with her, it’s up to her. If she can’t learn to trust you, it’s probably best to move on.

Your Future Wife

This girl reads too many romance novels. She hears wedding bells from the moment she meets you. You want to take things at a much slower pace.

Real love takes months and sometimes years to develop. This girl is a dreamer, but if you want to see if the relationship will work out, you’ll have to tell her that you want the same things she wants, but you take things at a much slower pace. Don’t make any promises or set a wedding date. If she doesn’t accept this, it’s probably best to let her go.

The Real Crazies

The real crazies are the ones who are obsessed with you. They stalk you or your female friends, park outside your house late at night to see what you’re doing, cry at the drop of a hat. In other words, they’re two steps away from a restraining order.

Relationships with an unbalanced women is like a relationship with a ticking bomb and you’re the bomb squad. In all honesty, it’s best to end the relationship with this type of girl, but that may be easier said than done. You might find that even a restraining order won’t work with a mentally unbalanced girl.

Final Thoughts

Since both men and women are on their best behavior when they first meet someone they are attracted to, you may not know that you’re involved with a girl who fits into one of the categories above until further into the relationship. You’ll have to decide whether or not to continue the relationship. If the tips in this article don’t improve the situation, it’s probably better to call it quits and move on to a more fulfilling relationship.

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Women take hours to dress and prepare for an evening out and they dress sexy for one reason only. To get noticed! And yes, they want to attract men, so if you thinking to approach a girl just know that she probably wants to be approached, and you are doing exactly what she wants you to do. Most women will wait for us men to make the first move, so don’t hesitate approaching her because you will be doing her, and yourself a favor.

Approaching a girl can be stressful if you are new to picking up girls, just keep in mind that she is probably stressful too. So how do you know when to approach a girl or not? Well…you don’t, the best way to find out is just to approach her. If you have been staring at each other the whole night she is probably interested, look for small gestures she might be throwing at you, fixing her hair or maybe a smile or two is a sign that you need to get over there.

Make sure you respond to her gestures, flirt back and show her that you are game. She might hold back a little at first, but this is natural. Keep your eye on her, even if she pretends not to see you. Remember that women want to be approached, but they don’t want you to know that. Women tend to hide their sexual tensions, when flirting with her, make sure you touch her gently at least a few times. Making contact with her is important to create the chemistry or find out if there is any at all, gently holding her hand or touching her shoulders is enough contact for flirting.

Fully understanding women is impossible, but these simple tips outlined above will help you at least understand the basics. Flirting is not rocket science, after a while it will come natural and you will find ways that work best for you. Take action and walk right up to the next girl you want to meet, remember these tips and start flirting your way to meeting the perfect girl.

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If you want something real bad, you will get it, right? Well not if you wait around until it somehow falls on your lap, you have to take action and go get what you want in life. The same goes for love, you cannot wait till that special someone just falls in your arms.

We all need love and we all need a partner to love and share your experiences with. How do you make someone love you? Or at least like you? We don’t have control over people’s feelings, but we do have control over our actions which can change people’s feelings about us.

So how can you make a girl like you? Here are a few tips to help you:

Value & Trust

If you are seen with a large social group and especially with other girls, you are atomically given the trust that you are socially acceptable and you have some kind of value as a person. Even if they are your friends, being seen with other attractive woman will give you the “stamp of approval” that you are something. Your friends can help, but not every single time. She may perceive you differently depending on the situation and environment no matter who you are with, and the helping hands might not be there when needed. So don’t always rely on your friends to help you get the girl.

Playing Hard to Get

We all know this one, playing hard to get is always better than appearing available and easy. To naturally play hard to get, show her that you’re unique and not just another bloke. Give her space and take some space for yourself too. If you come across as desperate or too easy going, she will see you as “just another guy”. Don’t spoil her, just be kind and confident and remember to avoid any awkward movements.

Don’t worry honey it’s on me…

Don’t ever try to buy your way into her heart, making her feel forced to see you or perhaps date you, is the biggest mistake you could ever make. Buying a little gift or maybe a dinner is fine, but constantly pulling out your wallet will make her feel bought. Try to be a gentleman and not a cash machine and focus on making her feel good without having to spend your money. Of course women will like gifts and being spoiled, but try to keep it more about the thought than the actual gift itself.

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Get to Know Yourself First

Firstly you need to fully understand and know yourself, in order to be confident you need to be in control of a situation. Know your weaknesses and reinforce them, find your strong points and use them to your advantage- this will help you to build up confidence and you will also know exactly what you capable of doing.

Visualizing Success

The key is to have a goal in mind, and visualize the reward or the end result. This goes with everything in life not just picking up girls, visualizing how happy you feel when you achieved the goals you set can help you to stay motivated. Visualization is an important part of success no matter what your goals might be, write down your goals and stick them somewhere you can see them every day. Knowing what you want and having the will to take action is enough to overcome any fear and obstacle in your way, and staying focused on your goal will give you the confidence you always wanted.

Show Her You Are Confident – The Right Way…

Showing a woman that you are confident can sometimes come across as arrogant or you may look like a “show-off”. Show her that you’re confident but also that you are aware of your weaknesses and strengths. Show her that you care about yourself, and that you are also in control of your life. Don’t apologize for silly mistakes and don’t try and put her on a pedestal. Being overly friendly can make you look desperate and unnatural, be a gentleman but not an ass-kisser.

Be Yourself

Probably the most important part of being confident with the opposite sex is to be your-self. Acting un-natural or conning your way around her is not going to do you good in the long run. You don’t have to share your secrets or every little detail, but be honest enough to show yourself and your qualities.
These tips relate to confidence in general, whether you’re looking for a date or preparing for an interview make sure you are really self-confident and motivated. This will give you a better chance at success. Confidence comes naturally and you will soon find that simply taking action and focusing on your goals can give you the much needed boost in confidence.

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